Happiness: Is it the New Sexy?
The word “sexy” makes most of us think of something you can see - a certain style, a body shape, a confident walk. And sure, we’re wired to notice beauty. But if you’re honest, the people who stay in your mind aren’t always the ones who looked the most “polished.”
There’s another kind of attraction. You can’t fake it. You can’t filter it. It’s how someone makes you feel when you’re around them. It’s in their ease. The quiet confidence that doesn’t need to be the loudest voice in the room. The joy they seem to carry without showing off.
That kind of sexy doesn’t fade. In fact, it deepens. Think about the people you’ve never forgotten. The ones who made you feel safe, or inspired, or simply glad you crossed paths. Chances are, it wasn’t their new outfit, the way their hair was perfectly done, or that they were in top shape. It was their presence. Their calm. Their glow.
We might be pulled in by how someone looks. But it’s their energy that makes us want to stay. Here’s the thing: that glow isn’t something you just get lucky with at birth. It’s something you build. It’s the emotional intelligence to stay steady when life throws you off balance. It’s the self-awareness to grow instead of blame.
It’s the discipline to protect your peace, even when it’s tempting to give it away.
This is beauty that comes from high prāṇa - that steady, nourishing life energy. And the funny part? When you grow it on the inside, it quietly starts to show on the outside. Your eyes have more light, your face softens, your smile turns up more often… and more genuinely.
And in relationships? At first, it’s often the little things you can see - the style, the spark, the laugh that draws you in. That’s natural. But over time, those things change. Routines set in. Life gets busier. If the connection is only surface-deep, it fades. Not because anyone “failed,” but because it didn’t grow.
What keeps love alive is when both people keep growing as individuals. When you commit to your own emotional maturity and inner wellbeing. When you give from fullness instead of need. That’s when the spark changes. It becomes steadier. Not as flashy, but warmer. Deeper. More sustaining.
As Kahlil Gibran said: “Let there be spaces in your togetherness.” That space is where each person stays connected to themselves while still choosing each other.
So maybe here’s the real question: What makes you glow? What would it look like to care for your inner state as much as your outer image? How would that change the way you relate to yourself, and to others?
Because in a world where the outside often gets more attention than the inside, there’s something unforgettable about someone who feels genuinely good on the inside. If sexy is what sparkles, then joy is the gem.
